I’m noticing more and more that the grief literature focused on bereavement loss can be equally applied to the (small) grief literature on separation and divorce.
Take, for example, this passage from grief and loss luminary Worden (2009):
The loss of a significant other causes a broad range of grief reactions, which we have seen are normal after such an experience. Most people are able to cope with these reactions and address the four tasks of mourning on their own, thereby making some kind of an adaptation to the loss. However, some people experience high levels of distress that bring them to counseling. Since an initial high level of distress is one of the best predictors of later distress, it can indicate that the person is at risk for a poor bereavement outcome. In such cases, counseling can often help bring about a more effective adaptation to the loss. (p. 83).
My point is that this could equally be written about grieving for the separated and divorced. Couldn’t it?
Worden, J. W. (2009). Grief counselling and grief therapy: A handbook for the mental health practitioner (Fourth ed.). New York: Springer.